This post describes my recent coming-out as a Sacred Deathcare practitioner.
I’m coming out of the closet about the Sacred Deathcare skills I have used and have kept hidden for years. I’ve been afraid that talking about them openly would sound scary or make people think I’m weird (or weirder than before)!
But I’ve been doing Sacred Deathcare work for decades, alongside my Sacred Self-Healing work. And in this post I’m naming Sacred Deathcare work as my calling and claiming it as my work.
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The epiphany
A couple of weeks ago I signed up for an in-person Sacred Deathcare workshop with my mentor Sarah Kerr in Calgary, Canada. I was telling my husband about it, and he asked me if I knew anyone who was already using the skills offered in the workshop, to understand whether I thought it would be worthwhile to take.
As I opened my mouth to reply I realized my husband knew I’d taken a lot of classes on death and dying. He knew I’d been a hospice volunteer, facilitated funerals, studied to be a hospice chaplain, and done spiritual counseling and ritual. But he didn’t know I had helped souls to cross the veil.
In that moment it hit me that I’ve been doing Sacred Deathcare skills and practices for a very long time. For at least 12 years I’d helped hundreds if not thousands of souls to cross over to the other side, and find their way to the light. I’d helped souls who were stuck here in energetic entanglements to get untangled and free. And I’d even worked with dark energies, Karmic energies, and unprocessed human energies, and helped to transform them into peace. But for whatever reason I had never shared the details with my husband.
Maybe I had held back theses details about my work due to the generational trauma from centuries of people like me being persecuted for having Sacred Deathcare skills. Maybe I thought my husband would be uncomfortable talking about it.
I often underestestimate my husband, and he was surprisingly chill about this conversation. I realized my discomfort had all been in my mind. I’d been holding myself back from sharing my skills and gifts for so long thinking that something bad would happen if I “came out”. But once I let it out I felt a huge relief.
I explained to my husband that I already possessed a lot of the skills that I would learn in the workshop. And while I spoke I realized I want to take the workshop for other reasons. I want to connect with other Sacred Deathcare practitioners and talk about the stuff we do as if it is normal. I want to feel myself surrounded by my peers and take in that my work is real, valid, and valued. I want to experience in-person Sacred Deathcare classes (since I’ve taken them all remotely so far). Taking the class feels like a way to claim Sacred Deathcare as my real work.
What now?
So, I’m publicly outing myself about being a Sacred Deathcare practitioner, and it feels pretty good.
Now that I’m not using so much mental space and energy to hold myself back from sharing my calling in life with the world, I’m experiencing a big expansion moment, sometimes called spiritualing upleveling. And that feels amazing!
I’ve got big plans coursing through my mind at warp speed.
I’ve created a new online self-study class on Preparing for a Good Death. And I’ve got ideas for more classes.
I’ve reached out and connected with other local Sacred Deathcare practitioners, and we are working on ways to support each other.
I’m using the words “Sacred Deathcare” in conversation more, and sharing that it’s my life’s work.
I’m attending events sponsored by organizations that support Sacred Deathcare, and finding my place in the local and national networks.
And I put Sacred Deathcare on the menu bar of my website, moving it from a hidden sub-menu front-and-center.
What is Sacred Deathcare?
Sacred Deathcare refers to a holistic and spiritually-centered approach to the end-of-life journey. It incorporates practices and rituals that honor and support the dying person, their loved ones, and the deceased. It recognizes the importance of addressing the emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs of individuals facing death and loss, alongside their physical well-being.
While doctors, nurses, and hospice providers attend to the physical needs of the body — for medical interventions, comfort, pain medicine, and palliative care — Sacred Deathcare providers, sometimes called death doulas, attend to the needs of the person’s soul.
As my mentor, Sarah Kerr teaches, the principles of Sacred Deathcare emphasize community connection, cooperation with archetypal forces, and the creation of healing rituals to facilitate a more profound and healing experience for both the living and the dead. The approach recognizes the importance of integrating the soul’s journey into end-of-life care and offers education and support to the dying and their families.
Sacred Deathcare providers can assist with:
- Preparing for your own death
- Preparing for a death in the family
- Preparing for and processing pet death (especially for children)
- Complex family dynamics around death or loss
- Unresolved deaths from the past
- Pregnancy loss (abortion, miscarriage, etc.)
- Life losses that feel like a death, even if nobody has died
- Integrating non-ordinary or mystical experiences
- Any other deathly situation where the healing energy is stuck
How is Sacred Deathcare different from Sacred Self-Healing?
Sacred Deathcare is a particular way of using Sacred Self-Healing for end-of-life concerns. Sacred Self-Healing is the overarching system of using forgiveness to effect healing, and I apply it to my Sacred Deathcare work, which includes talking about death-related phenomena to normalize them, ritual facilitation, counseling and coaching, classes, my books, and the Sacred Self-Healing Certificate Program.
Intention
The Sacred Self-Healing Method relies on the power of intention.
Intentions are more than goals, but your co-creative participation in your life path and healing. By setting an intention you add your desire to be a partner in your destiny, in combination with the seen and unseen forces at work in the Universe. Whether you are setting an intention for a successful root canal, for finding a great new job, or for a business meeting to go well, the act of putting forethought about the outcome into the process can be a powerful tool.
Intention is the driving force behind any energy healing modality, from Reiki to sound healing to prayer.
The universal equation for healing is:
Intention + Frequency = Healing
The “frequency” part of the equation is whatever healing modality is being used.
Intention can be used in health healing, job search, fitness, relationships, and pretty much everything.
This post has more information on the power of intention.
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Disclaimer
The preceding material does not constitute medical advice. This information is for information purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, cure or treatment. Always seek advice from your medical doctor.
